The meaning of identifying relatives is that before marriage, the family members of both the man and the woman make their first visit and recognize others as relatives. They need to go to each other's house, meet their relatives, and bring some gifts when going. The meaning of marriage proposal is that the male party, together with his parents and matchmaker, brings fruits, marriage gifts, and other items to the female party's home to meet her parents and express his wish to marry their daughter.
Identification process
1. In most regions, the process of identifying relatives involves the female party visiting the male party's home.
2. On the day of family recognition, the woman, the introducer, and the woman's relatives should go to the man's house together. When they go, they just need to bring something for the man's parents.
3. Upon meeting, the male parents are required to give the female a red envelope.
4. Discuss the intention of the wedding date.
The custom of recognizing relatives in some places is for the man to go to the woman's house to "recognize relatives". On the day of betrothal, the man should take three or five male companions to the woman's house. Generally, there should be uncles, parents' friends and others. These people must drink a lot. Except for the groom to be, others should have at least one jin of Baijiu. At that time, the woman's house should be equipped with wine attendants according to the man's arrival in advance to drink, eat, and talk about relatives.
Proposal process
1. When both parties have the idea of getting married and receive initial approval from their parents, they can plan to propose marriage.
2. You can choose a suitable auspicious day for marriage proposal by yourself or find a matchmaker, and then visit the bride's house.
3. It is very impolite to propose to the bride's house empty handed. The traditional marriage proposal man needs to prepare some small gifts for his wife and parents, which are nothing more than cigarettes, alcohol, wedding candy, Dim sum, etc., and the price should not be too extravagant. Just choose a compromise item.
4. On the day of the marriage proposal, the groom must DRESS appropriately and behave politely. Don't propose marriage immediately upon meeting. You can start by finding some topics and gradually move on to the formal request for marriage when it is warm and joyful. When proposing a marriage, you should make the parents of the bride feel your sincerity.
5. Gradually negotiate the details of dowry and marriage with the consent of both parents.
6. After the meal, the man should leave the woman's house as soon as possible.