The matchmaker needs to bring the bride's dowry, gold, and gifts to the bride's house, which are all prepared by the groom and need to be brought to the bride's house together with the matchmaker. The dowry is the amount agreed upon by the two families before. The gifts mainly include cigarettes, alcohol, wedding cakes, pastries, apples, red dates, and other items with beautiful meanings. At the same time, the gifts require even numbers to represent a perfect match.
What should I bring to propose to the bride's house
1. Dowries and gold gifts
Before proposing, it is necessary to discuss the amount of the gift money, so that it can be brought directly during the proposal.
Moreover, when discussing the dowry with the bride's family, the groom must make it clear whether the dowry already includes wedding cakes and other customary expenses (such as uncle's gift, DRESSing gift, bride's gift, table pressing gift, chef's gift, car door opening gift, candle lighting gift, dish serving gift, etc.). The amount of dowry still depends on the local customs and traditions, and is decided through negotiation between the two families.
2. Gifts
Generally, when going to the bride's house to propose, it is necessary to bring cigarettes, candies, wedding cakes, pastries, red dates, lotus seeds, sweet things (regardless of type), round cakes (representing a full and round event), apple gift boxes to express good luck and happiness, etc. The gifts brought to the doorstep must be even numbers, representing a perfect match.
Of course, different regions have different customs and habits, so the gifts to be brought will also be different. Generally, when a man goes to the woman's house to propose a marriage, he can discuss with the woman in advance and bring some things that his parents in law like, so as to cater to her preferences.