Whether to bring cigarettes and alcohol for the first visit can be determined based on the purpose of the visit. If the first visit is just a simple visit to elders, you don't need to bring cigarettes or alcohol, but you should bring gifts that are suitable for the elders and can reflect your feelings. If it is to express the intention of getting married to the woman's family, it is necessary to bring cigarettes and alcohol, and the grade of cigarettes and alcohol must be high, preferably reflecting the man's sincerity and economic strength.
First visit precautions
1. Understand the parents of the female party in advance
When a boy expresses his desire to meet his parents to a girl, he should ask the girl to go back and ask her parents to prepare. During this period, boys can ask the woman's parents about their hobbies, family members, whether there are brothers and sisters at home, whether there are elderly people at home, and whether there are children at home. Be fully prepared.
2. Agree on a good viewing time
After receiving a response, it is advisable to schedule a time, preferably on holidays or weekends in the morning.
3. Bringing gifts requires attention to detail
The gift that the man brings to the woman's house for the first time can be arranged based on the preferences of family members he has learned from the woman in advance. For male elders, if the other person likes smoking and drinking, they can give cigarettes and alcohol as gifts; For female elders, gifts such as jewelry can be given as gifts.
4. On the day of meeting, keep a distance from your girlfriend
No matter how good the relationship is, remember to keep a distance from your girlfriend. You can be as close as you like when you are together in private, but you must maintain a balance in a girl's home.
5. Be polite
When meeting the parents of the female party, one should adDRESS them as uncle or aunt, and when talking to them, one should bring "you" along. The speaking pace should be moderate, and elders should answer whatever they ask.
6. Be diligent
Be diligent in your performance. When you go to the woman's house and find things, you have to help with them. Generally, when you go to the woman's parents, they will stay for dinner. If you are at home, you need to help pick vegetables, wash them, and lay hands on them. This not only leaves a good impression on you, but also adds a lot of points. When going to a restaurant, it is important to make a reservation in advance and find a private room with a good environment. It is important to sit outside for easy access to water and food, as well as convenient checkout after meals. This will leave a good impression on the family.
7. Pay attention to your attire
First impressions are quite important. The suggestion is to focus on cleanliness, appropriateness, and even popularization, and try to avoid wearing new and trendy clothing and earrings, especially hairstyles, which should not be too flashy. After all, parents are from the previous era, and accepting these does require a process.