The three taboos when meeting with in laws are: avoiding favoring one's own children, avoiding judging the other party's children, and avoiding direct interest dealings.
Three taboos when meeting with in laws
1. Avoid favoring one's own children
Do not overly praise and protect your children in front of your in laws, as it will make the other parents worry about their children being mistreated. Alternatively, by expressing the shortcomings of one's own children, such as not being able to cook or not doing household chores well, it is easy for the in laws to mistake them for condoning these shortcomings.
2. Avoid criticizing the other party's children
If you have any objections to your daughter-in-law or son-in-law, you can communicate sincerely with them directly. If you express too much of your own opinions to your in laws, the intention is to hope that they will talk back about your children, but in reality, this will make them misunderstand that you have bias against their children. They will also relay your evaluations to their children, which will make young people feel like they are being sued. Not only is it not beneficial for solving the problem, but it also puts both parties in a confrontational relationship.
3. Avoid direct interest transactions
It is best not to have direct financial and interest exchanges between in laws, as unfamiliar and familiar relationships can make it difficult for both parties to calculate clearly in terms of money and other aspects.