Marriage proposal is the first step in engagement. Only when the man expresses his intention to propose to the woman's family can the couple get engaged. So, what are the rules for the man to propose to the woman's family?
1. Propose marriage six months in advance
Suggest proposing marriage almost half a year in advance, regardless of the date. It is not advisable to propose marriage in the first and seventh lunar months. On the double day of the lunar calendar, we propose marriage. Some elders like to have 6 days.
2. The number of suitors is even
It can be 6 people (excluding children). Parents must attend (or a representative or influential figure from the family must attend)+groom to be, and for the older generation to propose, a matchmaker must be present. One cannot go together if one has the character of "Gu". For example, one's aunt or sister-in-law (elder sister or younger sister). It is customary for the generation of "Gu" to make the bride secluded after entering the country.
3. Pay attention to clothing and appearance
Clothing must be appropriate and tidy, and appearance must be clean and tidy.
4. Do not leave empty handed
When you go to the bride's house to propose, don't forget to bring some small gifts. This is a form of politeness and respect for elders. Although they may say they don't need to be polite, they will be happy in their hearts.
5. Smiling all over the face
Never have a frown on your face, show your sincerity and smile. This will add a lot of points to the score.
6. Show respect
Respect the requests or opinions of the female party as much as possible and handle them according to their regulations. Otherwise, if there is a disagreement, the atmosphere will become too tense on the spot.
7. Arrive on time for the appointment
Never be late. If it is really due to traffic congestion or other force majeure factors, be sure to call and inform us that you will arrive slightly later.
8. Leaving at noon
The male party is required to leave at noon (from 11am to 1pm). Please arrive at the female party's house around 10am and leave before noon.
9. Newcomers, don't interrupt
Let adults talk on their own to show respect.